Post by @TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone

@Jimbabwe@lemmy.world 2026-11-01 02:25

It’s how they figure out who gets to sleep with who

@TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world 2026-11-01 02:58

It’s really just about finding groups of people who can show up on time and stay focused for 1-3 hours, depending.

@Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2026-11-01 03:29

having tried board games and such, I can confirm that the straight hetro male nerds did not in fact lead to a poly love heap.

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@begrudgedcarfolk@sh.itjust.works 2026-11-01 03:52

I think they cum together 😉

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@grue@lemmy.world 2026-11-01 04:37

But is every huge board game nerd you’ve met poly? FWIW, I know several board game nerds and one person who is poly, but AFAIK none of them are into the other thing.

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@brem@lemmy.world 2026-11-01 05:53

Easier & enough people are the same thing. Much like two of the thruple having sex with me is just as easy as me creating my own thruple.

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@blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 2026-11-01 07:00

Maybe being into board games is the default state and monogamists have a board game deficit

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@Samsy@lemmy.ml 2026-11-01 07:36

Isn’t that the guy from Bames Jond?

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@nerdo@lemmy.zip 2026-11-01 10:18

Board games alter your hormones

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@psycotica0@lemmy.ca 2026-11-01 12:22

It’s because we know it isn’t cheating to play within house rules so long as everyone agrees 😉

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@Ratio_Tile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-11-01 13:42

Tabletop gamers are very social, but still nerds. Typical tabletop game also has a lot of rules that need to be discussed and interpreted before playing, and if you want to regularly play you need 3-6 people who can consistently show up and focus for a number of hours. Polyamorous people are the sort of people who have a very clear and precise picture of what they feel counts as cheating and what their personal boundaries are, and who before beginning a relationship will sit down and litigate the rules and boundaries of the relationship, revisiting them as needed later on or as people are added to or leave the polycule. The ones who don’t do this tend to not be in poly relationships for long. Additionally, speaking for myself here as an ethically monogamous person, you kinda need to have the spoons to deal with lots of people having big feelings around you (good/bad doesn’t matter, all intense feelings are intense) which weeds out the introverts. The venn diagram of these two groups of people isn’t a circle, but the overlap is really huge. Highly social, likely autistic, respects rules, likes learning. And add to that people who are dating are already spending a whole lot of time with each other, which removes one of the difficulties of board games.

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@Mistakes@sopuli.xyz 2026-11-01 16:35

Damn, I guess it’s my turn to feel called out. We’ve got a floor to ceiling shelf that is filled with board games, and we’re looking at getting another.

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@rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works 2026-11-01 17:57

I mean, you can have a friend group where you only fuck one or two of them…

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@gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-11-01 18:11

it comes from the same origin (the Zen character) which is interested in scientific exchange (board games are a stand-in for this) and organizing (which is significantly furthered by polyamory)

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@gothmog@lemmy.today 2026-11-02 07:36

Goddamnit. This is so fucking true. Gonna post this to our poly chat.

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@rumba@lemmy.zip 2026-11-02 17:47

¿por qué no los dos? Humans are so busy looking for Cause->effect we often miss feedback systems CauseEffect

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@DonJefe@lemmy.world 2026-11-02 20:29

That’s like a chicken and egg question. I think the answer for that was dinosaurs

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@BeMoreCareful@lemmy.world 2026-11-02 20:54

Once you find a good group, you do what you need to to keep the game going.