@AnAutieAtUni@beige.party I have one friend (not autistic, though neurodivergent) who has extreme anxiety. She once commented to me that she finds visiting my home much less frightening because it looks relaxed and like she's allowed to relax in it. And that mirrored a feeling I have in pristine homes that I am going to mess it up. That was helpful, too. Allowing my home to look lived-in can make it more comfortable for visitors, not less!