@AnAutieAtUni@beige.party ooh yes I sooo relate to this! I am literally practising this. Like when I invite people who I feel don't have the same issue and have me over in a chaotic or less tidy home, reminding myself that it's OK for me to so that too. "It's OK if it looks like someone lives here". But it's so hard especially having grown up with extremely judgemental parents! So I try to practice a middle ground of course I don't want it to be filthy or look like we're loosing a game of Jumanji but I can have my crafting out or our playing cards/puzzles etc..