2026-04-15 16:01 UTC
@Willow @Tessa @eri sorry I wasn't commenting on anyone in particular. It just feels wrong to me for a partner to make a comment where they support you as long as you don't do X, it feels like an ultimatum between your transition and your relationship.
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@Willow@chaosfem.tw 2026-04-15 16:11
@ciara @Tessa @eri Yeah. I won’t comment on if it was or wasn’t, but it sure did interact with my lack of self worth in ways that left festering wounds.
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@doppelgrau@anarres.family 2026-04-15 20:04
@ciara @Willow @Tessa @eri Yes, it can feel like an ultimatum and also hurt some transition progress. But from my own transition and relationship, sometimes these "ultimatum" shouldn't be taken at face value, they can be a proxy for (now) unmet needs on the side of the partner. (Or just honest, sometimes attraction depends on some things and without them ...) But I'd also say, it really depends on the way it is said.