A: I think probably the biggest cause of abusive and unhealthy kink or kink-like dynamics is doms not understanding that being a dom comes with extra responsibility. Are you making sure your sub's emotional needs are met if you're in a relationship? Are you sure they're consenting? Are you sure they're asking for what they want? Are you sure they'll actually be okay if you go as far as they say you want? Like, yes, subs do also need to learn to speak up for themselves a bit, but even if you're going to insist on only working with subs who are good at that, are you able to filter out those that aren't? There are certainly other ways you get abuse in kinky dynamics, subs who push limits with doms, doms who are actually just abusers hiding in the trappings of kink, bad communication, and all that, but I think irresponsible doms are the biggest concern