2026-05-05 22:11 UTC
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@savagegoose@weirder.earth 2026-05-05 22:24
@mayorbeetles@pagan.plus I've found it to be a very rewarding journey tbh It's also forced a lot of paradigm shifts in my understanding of relationships and my relationship to self. I've started framing my relationship to myself and my own needs and wants the same way I do with my relationships with my partners. Which has helped a lot with a self sacrificial tendency I can have in relationships, and has given me a bit more resolve to hold firm on boundaries so I don't damage the relationship that I have with myself. Complicatedly, I think being explicitly selfish has made me a better partner and a better community member because it's forced me to be honest with myself about my needs and wants. I don't really like explicit hierarchy in ENM, but that relationship you have with yourself really has to be the main priority. You have to live with yourself regardless of what else happens.