2026-05-21 14:45 UTC
I gotta break the habit of answering with my deadname when a stranger asks me my name. At least, in places that are safe.
As soon as someone says “what’s your name?” my brain freezes up while it’s trying to figure out if it’s “safe” enough for me to be honest. But I present femme enough, with my voice still deep and masc, that whatever I say probably doesn’t really make a difference in whether someone clocks me or not.
I don’t know, like, the Starbucks barista at the airport? I really probably don’t need to worry about it.
Replies (3)
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@Willow@chaosfem.tw 2026-05-21 14:50
@themediumkahuna@tech.lgbt Food orders are such a good place to try names!
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@jepyang@wandering.shop 2026-05-21 14:54
@themediumkahuna@tech.lgbt it’s a tough one to break. i remember accidentally giving my old name even in safe situations. once on a first date with another trans girl! lmao i’ve exclusively going by my name for almost two years now and i still get tripped up and freeze when people ask my name sometimes. 🤷🙃
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@what@chaosfem.tw 2026-05-21 16:08
@themediumkahuna@tech.lgbt I met someone at a queer event and introduced myself with my chosen name and they did that thing where they kept saying my name over and over again to help themselves remember it. Usually that drives me bonkers, but it was actually lovely to hear in this case.