@adhdeanasl@beige.party I live by that. I was property of the state so I don't have family, but I never let anyone tell me how to be me. Not being raised allowed me to come up objective, neutral and open minded instead of biased, emotional and entitled. When people claim to like or love me with conditions, they stop existing to me. I don't need validation or acceptance. I need things to make sense to me. I value my peace and personal space more than fair weather friends and family.