@autoperipatetikos@neurodifferent.me @autistics@fedigroups.social I know what you mean. Not knowing whether people will be kind is a big source of uncertainty that I don’t like! Makes me want to tidy or clean more, even when things are already tidy and clean. I don’t even know what issues I’m concerned about or what to aim for. I often wonder if they’ll sense a strange smell that my brain has got used to or maybe see some mess that my ADHD brain has filtered out. I want people to feel comfortable too. But then I wonder how I can help them feel that when I almost always feel awkward in other people’s homes no matter what, and I find it hard to relax at home when I have visitors over too and I expect they sense that. It’s strange that I feel less worried about work people. I think I simply care more about friends / family connections and know work people come and go. But I definitely don’t like people going in rooms I didn’t expect them to, no matter what state the room is in.