The difference between a genuine apology and a non-apology. A non-apology goes like this: 1. Gaslight: “I'm sorry you feel that way.” 2. Explain: “There were (this, this and this) reasons why I did it.” 3. Poke: “And anyway, look at YOU!” A genuine apology goes like this: 1. Acknowledge what you did: “I did this thing.” (Describe it as accurately as you can) 2. Express remorse: “I'm sorry I did that.” 3. Learn and change! Voilà! Sigh. Why did it take me 50 years to figure this out? #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticVoices #Neurodiversity #AutisticExperience #PowerDynamics #PowerAndControl #Accountability #EmotionalManipulation #Gaslighting