@toxi@mastodon.thi.ng It is my understanding that the people "in the middle" aren't worried as much about "missing out" or people being "unreasonably critical", but having to choose whether they themselves are going to participate in a social environment or not. I believe that many if not most of those people already struggle greatly with conflict, even confusing it with abuse. In addition, these people struggle with being social already. Therefore, I believe it is often a matter of time before they yield to the systems being built.