Post by @AnAutieAtUni@beige.party

2026-09-17 12:08 UTC

@thisislieven@c.im @autistics@fedigroups.social Yes! I feel this very deeply too! I know exactly what you mean. This conflicts with my hopes to host visitors (one at a time, lowkey, as I said before, nothing intense). I can’t work out how to resolve this conflict of needs. I think I’d feel much less isolated if I could host occasionally.

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@thisislieven@c.im 2026-09-17 12:15

@AnAutieAtUni@beige.party @autistics@fedigroups.social I resolve this - wrongly I might add - by having everything at home to host a small group despite not doing so. But I like having the stuff - tableware and glasses, full cocktail set (despite no longer drinking alcohol), some board games, whatever else. It's all sustainable and most of it is used, just not for a group. Another thing is that I like to take charge when socialising outside. Not as in being the boss but arranging things. People also appreciate me doing it as I am best in tune with a) my needs and b) the needs of others and also c) typically I have the weirder mind so I come up with unexpected things. It also gives me less stress when I have some level of control, which is more enjoyable for everyone in the end.

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