@mayorbeetles@pagan.plus just wanna say your logical brain has the right idea. “finding someone better” is just so much less relevant in poly/ENM arrangements. like im sure it happens, and also that there are breakups where it’s easy for one person to experience it that way, whether it’s like that or not. but largely nobody i know is ever in a rush to dump one partner in favor of a new one. not “found someone better” but “found an additional someone”. and yeah, monogamy doesnt prevent the hurt